Marriages are under attack, and one of the ways that many fall is that the intimacy fails along the way. Scripture gives married couples lessons to follow:
Drink water from your own cistern,
water flowing from your own well.
Should your springs flow in the streets, streams of water in the public squares?
They should be for you alone and not for you [to share] with strangers.
Let your fountain be blessed, and take pleasure in the wife of your youth.
A loving doe, a graceful fawn— let her breasts always satisfy you; be lost in her love forever.
Why, my son, would you be infatuated with a forbidden woman or embrace the breast of a stranger?
For a man’s ways are before the LORD’s eyes, and He considers all his paths.
Prov 5:15-21 (HCSB)
Many people imagine God as a fuddy-duddy in the sky who doesn’t want His children to have any fun or enjoy anything in this life. People have a concept of God that says if something is enjoyable, He probably wouldn’t want us to partake of it. Those people have never read Proverbs 5.
In this passage, God reminds His people that “everything given and every perfect gift is from above coming down from the Father” (James 1:17). Sex is a gift from God. He wants His children to enjoy it, but He wants them to enjoy it in the proper way.
Joshua Harris’ book, Sex Isn’t the Problem (Lust Is), lays out a common misconception about sexual desires. Our sexual desires at their core are not bad, they are actually given by God. He just wants us to satisfy our sexual desires in a healthy way; that is why he makes marriage such a big deal.
If a man loves the beauty of women, then let him enjoy his wife’s beauty. If a woman loves the attractive nature of men, then let her indulge in her husband’s handsomeness. The greatest way to avoid sexual temptation is to be fulfilled in God’s gift to you through a spouse.
God created your sexual desires. He is honored when those sexual desires are met within the marital relationship. If you want to keep your marriage strong, make sure you nurture all different elements of your marriage.