I have a confession to make: I am a narrow-focused church member.  I look at all the possible changes at our church at how it would affect me and mine.  I judge the worth of programs based upon how they benefit me and my family.  If it can make me feel better, I’m all in.

I tend to refuse to look at other’s situations.  I want others to see things the way I see them.  If they just saw it my way, everything would be OK, right?

Or maybe everything would be OK if I looked at it the way others saw them.

The problem in Christianity is that preferences exist and none of them are better than another’s.  In fact, I believe so often our disagreements in churches are an opportunity for us to die to self rather than to prove our point.

The next time your church experiences drama, I dare you to really pray about what this means for you (not for your situation hoping someone else applies these verses, what would happen if you applied these verses?):

1So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy,2 complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.3 Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.5 Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, -Philippians 2:1-5

Travis Agnew is a Christian, husband, father, pastor, author, blogger, and religion instructor.