Men are called to love and to lead their wives.  You might desire to do this but unsure of how to go about doing it. Maybe you’ve never seen what it looks like for a godly man to love his wife. Maybe you have tried but feel like you keep finding resistance from your wife.

No matter how your wife responds, you are responsible for how you show love to her.

God will not hold you responsible for what your wife says to you or how your wife acts towards you. He will hold you responsible for how you love her in spite of her disposition.

When the Apostle Peter provided instructions for the home, he included a helpful verse found in 1 Peter 3:7:

Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”

What does it mean that your wife is weaker than you? Does it mean that she can’t lift heavy objects like you can? Maybe. Does it mean that she is more prone to cry or have emotional days than you are? In some situations, yes. Honestly, it is hard to determine all that this is saying or not saying.

Honestly, this verse speaks more to the role of the husband though than it does the role of the wife.

Rather than focusing upon her weakness, think about what it means that you are supposed to be stronger than her.

It means that in trying times, you need to be resolute. It means that when the world is falling apart, you are unwavering in your faith in God. In those moments that you stand firm, if your bride begins to waver, don’t insult her, degrade her, or intimidate her.

Be a man, but don’t bully a daughter of God under the guise of your masculinity.

God doesn’t appreciate it at all. In fact, he says that if you can’t understand that your wife is a “co-heir of the grace of life,” your prayers are hindered.

Do you ever feel like your prayers are hitting the ceiling? You’ve prayed for something but haven’t seen any change?

Maybe it’s not that God is not listening, it’s just that he doesn’t respect the prayers of a bully. Be a man. A man of God.

If you don’t listen to your wife, God won’t listen to you.

Travis Agnew is married to Amanda and the father of two sons and one daughter. He serves as the Senior Pastor of Rocky Creek Baptist Church in Greenville, SC. His most recent book is What God Has Joined Together.