Don’t Give Them What They Deserve

Our tendency is to repay people for any negative words or harmful actions, but Jesus taught quite the opposite. The way of the kingdom is counter-cultural and yet life-giving.

Let Your Spouse Off the Hook

Marriage is bound to have some troubles.  You must address conflict with your spouse wisely, and many things need to be addressed.  But I believe there are some things of which you simply need to let your spouse off the hook. Don’t get me wrong: some things need to be addressed!  But you need to address that which the spouse …

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Righteous People Get Back Up After Unrighteousness

Can you sin so many times that God refuses to extend His grace any longer? Many of us struggle to follow God because of our previous shortcomings.  You mishandle your past when you fail to deal with it.  Even though it is painful to go back through failures and frustrations, you must address yesterday’s hurts if you are to experience …

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Couple’s Fight Rule #3: No Reloading Discarded Weapons

In my continuing effort to help couples learn how to fight more fairly with one another, I am listing healthy fight rules.  You can view the previous ones here. The next one is: Couple’s Fight Rule #3: No Reloading Discarded Weapons Here’s how this one goes down: a spouse does something to upset his or her significant other.  That spouse …

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No “Sorry, But…”

In marriage, it is very easy to justify your action based upon something your spouse did. A mature spouse desires to be reconciled more than desiring to be right.

Forgive Us Our Debts

In the Lord’s Prayer, Jesus offered a challenging prayer point: And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.  -Matt. 6:12 This petition is very unique compared to the others.  This request for pardon comes with a distinct stipulation: forgive us as we have forgiven others. We understand that we need forgiveness.  None of us are righteous …

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Let It Go

When we’ve been wronged, it’s easy for us to turn into judge, jury, and executioner. We’ve been unfairly hurt, and we think it would be fitting to make things right. The problem is this: we are not the ones who make it right—that’s God’s job.

It’s time for us to let it go.

“Forgive the same way Jesus forgives: freely and willingly. Acknowledge God as the rightful Judge over that persons’ life” (The Resolution, page 176).

If someone has hurt you, it’s simply difficult to let it go. Read Romans 12:17-21 and discover how God desires us to handle our hurts:

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The Reason for Reconciliation

Who has a problem with you? Maybe you know they have said things to you or about you. Maybe they have been distant ever since that one day. The issue is so real you can feel the conflict when around them or when their name is mentioned.

Today, we are going to study a passage of Scripture that should completely altar your schedule today. No matter what you have on the agenda, something is about to take priority over all other matters: it’s time to seek reconciliation with those you have wronged. Read Jesus’ words on the issue in Matthew 5:23-24.

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Forgiving Your Father’s Killer

When Steve Saint was 5 years old, his father, Nate, was speared to death by Waodani tribesmen in Ecuador. Nate was the pilot of a five member team who reached these deadly warriors. After a friendly first encounter, the tribesmen turned on these missionaries and killed them.

In the absence of his father, Steve was loved by an older man who served to be a father figure. Throughout the majority of Steve’s adult life, he has traveled with this man, served in ministry with this man, and even lived beside this man. Both families spend so much time together that it seems as if they are all one big happy family.

Steve’s father figure is a man named Mincaye — the man who killed his father.

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Just as Christ Forgave You

It’s Passion week.  It’s the week we celebrate the death and resurrection of Jesus.  It’s a week when we should be reminded the great level to which Christ forgave us.

And we, in turn, are to forgive others in the same way.

This subject matter is pretty intense. Dealing with past hurts in which we were the victim or the culprit are never fun to visit.   It is extremely hard to forgive those who have hurt us

Read Colossians 3:12-15 to see how we should forgive:

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Redeeming Your History

What a great day at North Side as we kicked off our 2 week Courageous series.  In addition to a great prayer time for our Africa team, we had a wonderful worship time together.  Taylor did a great time of focusing our prayers for that team and the unreached people group.  The worship team did great today!  So much energy, passion, and skill.  They led me to the throne – it was fantastic!

Today, we worshiped to:

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