This week’s book of the week is Stop Dating the Church!: Fall In Love with the Family of God. This small book by Joshua Harris is full of sweet goodness.  While Harris is a great writer, this book is a critical read for many people.  Many people (especially college students) have a tendency to church hop or church shop or date the church without having any type of commitment.

We have diluted “church” into something you attend rather than something of which you are.  You are a part of it, you don’t go to it.  As an encouragement to others, don’t waste your life dating the church.  Get married.  Find a local congregation, settle down, and live life with them.  If for no other reason than that is Jesus’ desire.

Top 5 Ideas:

  1. “Can you spot what I’m calling a church-dater?  Here’s a quick profile…First,  your attitude toward church tends to be me-centered…A second sign of a church-dater is being independent…Most esentially, a church-dater tends to be critical” (16-17).
  2. “Is it possible that God didn’t get His inspiration for loving the Church from marriage, but that one reason God created marriage was to illustrate His love for the Church?” (30).
  3. Quoting from Charles Spurgeon: “What is a brick made for?  To help build a house.  It is of no use for that brick to tell you that it is just as good a brick while it is kicking about on the ground as it would be in the house.  It is a good-for-nothing brick.  So you rolling-stone Christians, I do not believe that you are answering your purpose.  You are living contrary to the life which Christ would have you live, and you are much to blame for the injury you do” (46).
  4. “…when we’re passionate, we want to sign up.  We want to belong, to be identified as members…You need to officially join–become a member–so that the pastors and others there know you’re part of the team” (67).
  5. “But no matter what we do for a living–whether we’re a plumber, a politician, or a CEO–we’re called to bring our whole selves into our church family.  Instead of being an afterthought, investing our abilities to honor and glorify God in our church should come first” (72).

Travis Agnew is married to Amanda and the father of two sons and one daughter. He serves as the Senior Pastor of Rocky Creek Baptist Church in Greenville, SC. His most recent book is What God Has Joined Together.