Let No Misalignment Separate

If you still want to be with your spouse at the end of your life, you must be heading in the same direction now.
Many marriages struggle not because of dramatic opposition but due to subtle misalignment. Two people start close, side by side, but pointed in slightly different directions. At first, the difference is almost imperceptible. But over time, even a few degrees off can lead to miles apart.

Most couples don’t begin with opposing worldviews—but small, unaddressed differences early on can create massive gaps later. Like two arrows shot from parallel yet misaligned bows, the divergence widens the farther they fly. What started as a minor infraction becomes an unbridgeable distance.

For a marriage to thrive, there must be mutual motivation.
You need to agree on the end goal of your marriage. What is the win for your home? Is it peaceful coexistence, well-raised children, or financial success? Scripture gives us a greater target: the glory of God.

“Whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (1 Cor. 10:31)

When both spouses aim to glorify God in every part of life, alignment happens naturally. You don’t move toward each other—you move toward Him, and in doing so, draw closer together. Making God the central focus isn’t just spiritual—it’s practical. It blesses your marriage, your home, and your legacy.

The worst approach to marriage is making it all about yourself—or even about your spouse. The best way to love your spouse is to prioritize obeying God’s Word. His standards are higher than ours and infinitely better for us.

When the Apostle Paul wrote to the Corinthian church, they were confused about marriage in light of sexual sin and cultural chaos. Some wondered if it would be better to abandon marriage entirely. Paul, a single man, clarified: marriage should exist for Kingdom purposes.

If being married helps you serve Jesus better, pursue marriage.
If remaining single allows for undivided devotion, remain single (1 Cor. 7:7, 9, 33–35). Paul’s goal wasn’t to burden people but to encourage Kingdom alignment. His message:

“I say this for your own benefit… to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.”(1 Cor. 7:35)

If your marriage doesn’t contribute to Kingdom focus, you’re heading in the wrong direction.
Making your marriage about temporary happiness, about each other exclusively, or about worldly goals will only lead you apart. If you want to grow together, align around God’s Word.

Maybe your marriage is struggling because you’re leaning on your own understanding. Your internal compass doesn’t match your spouse’s, and both of you are following different standards. Your standard is unstable. Theirs is uncertain. You must both look to the standard above you.

So, who needs to lose? Both of you.
Because Jesus said:

“Whoever loses his life for My sake will find it.” (Luke 9:24)

If God has joined you together, let no misalignment separate you. Align your lives, your hearts, and your home around Him.