What God Has Joined Together is a book written for the purpose of strengthening marriages.  Putting together this resource was such a daunting yet rewarding assignment.

The book contains 31 succinct chapters on 31 potential marriage separators.

Listed below are the chapter titles and a summary statement for each one.  I pray that it can help marriages strengthen according to the principles present in God’s Word.

  1. Let Nothing Separate – When an eternal God puts something together, it should last forever.
  2. Let No Misalignment Separate – If you still want to be with your spouse at the end of your life, you must be heading in the same direction now.
  3. Let No Selfishness Separate – Every single one of your marital disagreements is because one or both of you are behaving selfishly.
  4. Let No Conflict Separate – The person who knows you the closest is often able to hurt you the deepest.
  5. Let No Miscommunication Separate – Effective communication in marriage is when two people learn to talk with one another rather than just to one another.
  6. Let No Disrespect Separate – Since men need significance in their lives, God calls wives to submit to their husbands.
  7. Let No Indifference Separate – The level of a man’s sacrifice for his wife determines the amount of security she feels in their marriage.
  8. Let No Expectation Separate – Unrealistic or unclear expectations in marriage can lead to unforgiving and unwilling spouses.
  9. Let No Past Separate – Couples who cannot reconcile their pasts will never be able to enjoy their future.
  10. Let No Parents Separate – If you are not careful, your relationship with your parents can threaten your relationship with your spouse.
  11. Let No In-Laws Separate – You must learn to prioritize your marriage without idolizing your side of the family or demonizing your spouse’s side of the family.
  12. Let No Child Separate – Prioritizing your children can lead to neglecting your spouse.
  13. Let No Friendship Separate – Any relationship that detracts from your marriage is an unhealthy friendship.
  14. Let No Sexual Struggle Separate – The lack of prioritized passion in a marriage leads to a dangerous disconnect between spouses.
  15. Let No Secrets Separate – Keeping secrets from your spouse threatens the oneness that marriage was uniquely intended to provide.
  16. Let No Career Separate – Some couples get married to their work and merely work on their marriage.
  17. Let No Busyness Separate – Romance, nurture, and communication take time.
  18. Let No Finances Separate – Mishandling money can rob you of marital maturity.
  19. Let No Hobby Separate – A good thing can become a bad thing when it becomes the one thing to the neglect of the important things.
  20. Let No Fox Separate – Sometimes the most dangerous nuisances in your marriage are not the ones that are glaringly obvious.
  21. Let No Addiction Separate – If something influences, alters, or controls your actions, the reality is that the Holy Spirit is no longer fully guiding you.
  22. Let No Adultery Separate – The fun of adultery will last for a moment, but the pain of adultery will last for a lifetime.
  23. Let No Pornography Separate – Pornography seeks to convince you that what is God-given is insufficient to meet your desires.
  24. Let No Technology Separate – Without moderation, technology will distract and disconnect you from your spouse.
  25. Let No Password Separate – In a time of increased connectivity with others, you must learn how to maintain transparency with your spouse.
  26. Let No Midlife Crisis Separate – The only way to survive a midlife crisis is by focusing on what you have rather than what you don’t have.
  27. Let No Incompatibility Separate – Marital conflict does not imply that you are hopelessly incompatible but that you are relentlessly sinful.
  28. Let No Hardship Separate – The strongest couples are the ones who refuse to allow the hardships that come against their marriage to come in between their marriage.
  29. Let No Spiritual Apathy Separate – Don’t allow your spouse’s spiritual apathy to dilute your own personal devotion.
  30. Let No Pride Separate – Your marriage will never heal until you view your pride as part of the sickness.
  31. Let No Sin Separate – You cannot give your spouse a love that you have not received.

Travis Agnew is married to Amanda and the father of two sons and one daughter. He serves as the Senior Pastor of Rocky Creek Baptist Church in Greenville, SC. His most recent book is What God Has Joined Together.