Happy Rebirthday

The most enduring memories are the most ritualized ones. 1.    John 3:3 – Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God. 2.    1 Pet. 1:3 – according to his great mercy he has caused us to be born again to a living hope 3.    The most enduring memories are the …

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The Hangout House

Kids will spend the most time where they feel the most welcomed. 1.    Josh. 24:15 2.    Bad company corrupts good morals.  (1 Cor. 15:33) 3.    Kids will spend the most time where they feel the most welcomed. 4.    If you earn your child’s trust, you can better communicate your concerns.

How to Encourage Your Family

People replicate what their loved ones celebrate. 1. Heb. 3:13 2. Never forget the power of private and public affirmation.  (Matt. 3:16-17) 3. People replicate what their loved ones celebrate. 4. Meaningful encouragement always involves intentionality and specificity. 5. If you want it to happen, schedule it to happen.

Living Vicariously Through Your Child

The goal is not for your child to look more like you but to look more like Jesus. 1.    Gen. 5:1-3 (cf. 1:27) 2.    The goal is not for your child to look more like you but to look more like Jesus. 3.    Don’t suffocate your child with lesser pursuits. 4.    What needs to happen for my child to reflect more the …

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Sins of the Father

Resolve to defy any sinful legacy and turn your family around. 1. The sins of the father punish future generations when they become the sins of the children (Deut. 24:16). – Fathers shall not be put to death because of their children, nor shall children be put to death because of their fathers. Each one shall be put to death for …

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Gracious Discipline

Don’t punish your child when you have pushed their limits. 1.    Prov. 22:6 2.    Don’t punish your child when you have pushed their limits. 3.    Discipline based upon the child’s crime and not based on your reputation. 4.    Don’t neglect to teach about grace in discipline.

Loving Your Spouse Through Depression

Don’t kick your spouse when he or she is down. 1.  Don’t kick your spouse when he or she is down. 2.  Job 2:9 3.  Set your banner up as love. 4.  Song of Solomon 2:4

Break Off the Engagement

Yellow flags in dating become red flags in marriage. Main Points Years later when she was questioned as to whether she had ever been in love, Moon responded: “Yes, but God had first claim on my life, and since the two conflicted, there could be no question about the result.” 1 Cor. 7:35 – I say this for your own benefit, …

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Helping Your Spouse

You are not called to hinder your spouse but to help your spouse. Gen. 2:18 You are not called to frustrate your spouse but to further your spouse. You are not called to clone your spouse but to compliment your spouse. You are not called to hinder your spouse but to help your spouse.

Caring for Aging Parents

Honor the position of your parent even when it is difficult to honor the personality of your parent. 1.    Prov. 23:22 2.    Honor the position of your parent even when it is difficult to honor the personality of your parent.  (Ex. 20:12) 3.    You honor God when you honor your parents. (Lev. 19:32) 4.    Your children are learning how to …

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Remove Divorce From Your Vocabulary

In certain situations, divorce may be permitted but it is never promoted. Main Points Matt. 19:8 – Moses permitted divorce Eph. 5:32 In certain situations, divorce may be permitted but it is never promoted. 1. Study God’s Word for Direction 2. Pray with Your Spouse 3. Seek Biblical Counsel What do you have to lose by one session with a …

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Be Disciplined Before You Discipline

Parents must discipline themselves before they discipline their children. Main Points Eph. 6:4 – Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Parents are called to disciple their children. Parents are also called to discipline their children. Parents must discipline themselves before they discipline their children. Hostile parents produce …

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Why Kids Leave Church Once They Leave Home

We have replaced parents with programs and we are losing our children one generation at a time. Main Points We have expected the church to do what God expects the family to do. We have replaced parents with programs and we are losing our children one generation at a time. God’s ideal is when a family of God partners with …

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Christmas Presence

Celebrate Christmas by imitating Jesus. Main Points Phil. 2:5-7 Celebrate Christmas by imitating Jesus. Be incarnational to someone in need. Help your family make a give list instead of a wish list. List out the gifts that God has already given your family. Come, let your family adore him. Enjoy this video?  Check out the growing collection of Family Alter videos!

Equipping Your Family

If experience is the only thing able to produce healthy homes, then all our families are doomed. Main Points If experience is the only thing able to produce healthy homes, then all our families are doomed. 2 Tim. 3:16-17 Teaching –  what’s right Reproof – what’s not right Correction – How to make it right Training in righteousness – how …

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Family Reconciliation

When a family relationship is strained, how does the Bible expect you to respond? Main Points Rom. 12:18 Heb. 12:18 Col. 3:13 If it is your fault, seek forgiveness.  (James 5:16) If it isn’t your fault, offer forgiveness.  (Matt. 5:23-24) Enjoy this video?  Check out the growing collection of Family Alter videos!

Parental Nags

If parents nag about everything, children will not listen to anything. Main Points Col. 3:21 – Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Prov. 25:24 – It is better to live in a corner of the roof than in a house shared with a quarrelsome woman. If parents nag about everything, children will not listen to anything. …

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Don’t Be THAT Parent At Sporting Events

Sports can have a good place as long as they don’t take God’s place. Main Points 1 Timothy 4:7-8; 1 Cor. 9:25-27 Sports can have a good place as long as they don’t take God’s place. Give eternal pursuits more effort than you give temporal pursuits. What you say and how you say it reveal what you love and how …

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The Presidential Election and Your Family

As Americans observe Election Day, here are some things to consider regarding how you react to the results in the presence of your family. Main Points Render to Caesar what is Caesar’s but keep from Caesar what belongs to God (See Matt. 22:21). Never allow your politics to change your religion (see Ezek. 43:8). Don’t idolize or demonize a politician …

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Better vs. Biblical

It’s one thing to claim you are better, and another thing to claim you are biblical. Enjoy this video?  Check out the growing collection of Family Alter videos!

Pause the Divorce Proceedings

If you are considering divorce, is there any motivation for giving the marriage one more chance? If so, go with it. Enjoy this video?  Check out the growing collection of Family Alter videos!

The Danger of Worshiping As a Family

While it is great when the entire family worships together, there is danger there as well. What are we teaching our children? Enjoy this video?  Check out the growing collection of Family Alter videos!

Pursue Your Spouse

If your marriage is drifting, don’t wait for your spouse to make the first move. Pursue your spouse. Enjoy this video?  Check out the growing collection of Family Alter videos!

Media Safeguards

How can you protect media influence from corrupting your children? Enjoy this video?  Check out the growing collection of Family Alter videos!

Love Before Live

Before you teach your children how to live for the Lord, have you taught them how to love the things of the Lord? Enjoy this video?  Check out the growing collection of Family Alter videos!

The Debt Snowball

Want to get out of debt? Here is a principle that can help you do just that. Enjoy this video?  Check out the growing collection of Family Alter videos!

The Parent Funnel

You job is to make your child independent, but you might be going about it in the wrong order. Family Alter Videos

Engagement Rules

Make sure that you don’t prepare more for the wedding than you do the marriage. Here are 4 relationships you need to cultivate during your engagement: Jesus Fiance Godly Friends Godly Mentors

Open Places

We are back with the 1st installment of this year’s Family Alter videos.  These short videos are intended to help you make small alterations for home transformation. In this episode, we talk about the open places. In every home, there are open places for the enemy to enter.  We must identify where they are, build up the walls, and fight …

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Addressing Abuse

Abuse is rampant in homes across America. What is your family and church doing to ensure it is addressed? Mandated Reporting Training Resources Enjoy this video?  Check out the growing collection of Family Alter videos!

Serve Single Mothers

Single mothers have a unique set of challenges, but the church is made up of a unique set of gifts.