10 Questions for Becoming a Helpful Spouse

Regardless of your marriage situation or how long you have been in it, all of us could make our relationships stronger than they currently are. Here are ten questions to get you thinking as an individual or a couple to strengthen your marriage.

Helpless & Alone

God categorized the only creation made in His image as helpless and alone. Within the gift of a spouse, God intends to meet these two needs for his sole purpose.

Formed & Filled

Just as God formed and filled every aspect of Creation, we must realize that our lives and marriages were addressed in the same way. We cannot truly appreciate the gift of marriage until we comprehend why God gave it to us in the first place.

You are Entirely Unique

You are entirely unique. God didn’t use a template to form you. Your Creator designed every part of your good desires and every one of your noble opportunities. As you read Psalm 139 below, make a mental note of words or phrases that speak to the uniqueness of how God created you. 13 For you formed my inward parts;    you knitted me together …

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Creation

Untouched yet by Mankind, Creation was perfect in the beginning.  God displayed His goodness and purpose in what He created and how He created it. In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth (Gen. 1:1). The Creator of Creation The names of God used in Scripture usually signify something unique is transpiring. El is the Hebrew name for …

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Satan’s Strategy

Curiously, in the Garden of Eden, the serpent begins his attack with Eve.  The devious nature of this attack lies in the fact that God had instructed Adam concerning the law of the land, and yet the serpent approaches Eve to challenge those rules. The manner in which he comes also speaks volumes.  Lucifer, known for his brilliant covering arrayed …

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Suitable Helper

In marriage, you are meant to be a suitable helper for your spouse. Suitable Helper Genesis 2:4-25 Alive and Yet Alone Mankind is the only creation that was made in the image of God (Gen. 1:27). Out of all his creations, God reckoned that only one of them was not good – Man. “It is not good that the man …

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What’s Big to Me Is Small to God

Let’s put some things into perspective.  Check out these pictures below: The Grand Canyon of in Arizona is a chasm 277 miles long and up to 18 miles wide.  Below Yavapai point is 2,400 feet above sea level, about 4,500 feet below the South Rim and 5,400 feet below the North Rim for an average depth of about one mile.  Formed …

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Suitable Helper

To say that God and Adam were close is an understatement.  Adam experienced a level of intimacy in the Garden that no other human has ever fully experienced.  There was no sin.  There was no separation.  There was no Fall, curse, or corrupt nature.  God strolled through the Garden that Adam tilled.  We are talking face to face, eye to eye, …

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What God Has Joined Together, Let No Expectation Separate

Many letdowns in marriage happen when our expectations set our spouses up for failure.  What exactly are we supposed to help one another do? This Genesis 2 message is from North Side’s Marriage Conference 2016. Sermon Points Unrealistic expectations in marriage can lead to unforgiving spouses. It is easier to criticize your spouse’s failures that it is to address your …

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God Makes Good Out of Evil

God took the evil deeds of Joseph’s brothers and used them for his greater plan of providing salvation from the famine.  In the same way, God used the evil injustice of those who put his son, Jesus, on the cross to bring about his master plan of providing salvation from sin and death. Here are some of my notes from …

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When God Calls Us to Suffer

Joseph suffered unjustly and was later exalted to a place of prominence.  In a similar manner, Jesus suffered unjustly and was later raised from the dead and exalted as Lord of the world. Here are some of my notes from last week’s lesson from the Gospel Project: God never promises that faith will spare us from suffering. Favoritism of one …

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Wrestling with God

Jacob received a new name from God.  His old name meant “deceiver” and was an apt description of his life.  But after a mysterious encounter with God, Jacob was never the same.  He received a new name that reflected God’s grace to him and his descendants.  Encountering God leads to a fundamental change of identity and purpose. Here are some …

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God’s Dysfunctional Covenant Family

Studying through the Gospel Project, we have come to the unique relationship between Jacob and Esau (Gen. 27:1-40). God is sovereign over all of life, and he will work out his plan of redemption despite and sometimes through our dysfunction.  Jacob’s story is a good example of why humanity needs a Savior.  Like Jacob, we seek a blessing that is …

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Abraham & Isaac & Jesus

Continuing through the Gospel Project Chronological, this last week has been amazing.  In addition to the curriculum, our church is providing weekly Bible readings that go along with the lessons. While all of the focuses have been great, this week’s was very significant for two reasons: 1) Jesus saved my son, Obadiah, through the reading of Scripture this week associated …

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God’s Covenant with Abraham

Continuing through the Gospel Project Chronological, we have come to the part of Scripture detailing God’s Covenant with Abraham. In this session, we will learn that God is a covenant-making God.  Because of sin, the people on earth had been separated from God (Eden) and each other (Babel), but God chose one man, one family, through whom He promised to …

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God Has to Humble Himself to Behold Our Extravagance

Our church is loving the Gospel Project Chronological!  Just six weeks in and all ages are learning so much and uniting together through discussion and application.  Amazing to watch. In this week’s session, we see humanity’s propensity for inventing ways to build up our own prestige and bring honor to ourselves.  As we build our kingdoms and lift up our …

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God, Cain, and Abel

I have learned so much from our study in Genesis 4 this week. This biblical story has been a major part of my life this week: My wife and I studied it together. My discipleship group studied it. My children learned about it. Our college group studied it. Our Bible reading plan went around it. I have had numerous discussions …

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The Cross Disarms the Cherubim

I was excited about others learning a lot in the Gospel Project.  I was thrilled when I saw how much my children were learning.  Have I mentioned how much this material is pushing and teaching me? Here are some of what I have been learning this last week as we studied “Human Rebellion” in Genesis 3: Satan’s strategy hasn’t changed …

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How Was Eve Supposed to Help Adam?

Our church has been enjoying the Gospel Project curriculum.  I have heard so many great comments from all ages! This week, it was great how time with our college group studying Genesis 2 led to discussions about dating and marriage. After God created all things by using his words (or the Word), he created one thing with his hands – …

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Creation & Legos

Studying the Scripture together as a family is important.  Studying the Scripture as a church is important.  If you can combine those two things, you can make some significant progress!

We unite our church’s curriculum so that all ages are all learning the same thing at the same time.  It’s so helpful for church and family discipleship to take place more naturally.  As I learn in my group, I know what my kids are learning and we can stay on the same page throughout the week.

One night, I was asking my children what they knew about Creation, Eli (7) told me what God created on each day, Obadiah (7) told me that all things created were meant to give God glory, and Gloria (3) told me that everything God created was good.  I think they were getting it!

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Lyrics to “How We’ve Fallen”

So far, we have shared 5 songs from “The Word” project on a Sunday morning.  Yesterday, the fifth offering was a song entitled “How We’ve Fallen” and it tells the story of Adam and Eve succumbing to temptation and bringing about the Fall of Mankind (Genesis 3).  Since we were in James 1:15-17 on temptation, it made a great place …

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Alpha-Bits and Creation

The craziest thing happened the other morning. I had overslept and was chaotically running around the house trying to get ready in time for work.  As I ran by the kitchen table, I saw the most peculiar thing. A box of Alpha-Bits had been overturned on the table, some of the cereal had spilled out, and it actually spelled this …

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God’s Plan for Your Family Is Not Complex

God’s plan for your family is not complex. We make it that way, but it really is not. This is the plan – God wants to reconcile the world to himself and he plans on doing that through Christ-following parents teaching their children to follow Christ and it multiplies from there. Abraham’s Job Let me show you how this began …

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A Quiver Full

“Like arrows in the hand of a warrior or the children of one’s youth” (Psalm 127:4). On the battlefield, arrows can hit targets beyond the archer’s physical reach.  The analogy from Ps. 127:4 reveals that in our lives, our children can do more for the Kingdom of God than we can if we love them according to God’s instructions. Think …

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Trading the Utmost for the Urgent

Abraham was the father of Isaac.  Isaac the father of Esau and Jacob – twin boys. While Esau was the older and rightful heir to the family inheritance, Jacob manages to take the birthright from his older brother (Gen. 25:29) and receive Esau’s blessing from their father, Isaac (Gen. 27:18-29).  In the first instance, Jacob exploits Esau’s hunger and lackluster …

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The Ram in the Thicket

At 100 years old for Abraham and 90 years old for Sarah, they finally have a son, Issac.  God’s promise is fulfilled.  God has blessed their family so they can be a blessing to all the families in the world. Yet, God makes things interesting again.  When Issac is older, God calls Abraham to sacrifice his son (Gen. 22:2).  After …

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God Doesn’t Need You to Help Him Out

I mentioned in a previous post that God’s promise was not contingent upon Abram’s performance. Regardless of Abram’s shameful behavior, God still intends to bless Abram so that the nations of the earth can be blessed through him.  Abram couldn’t grasp a great nation coming from him if he couldn’t even produce one single child (Gen. 15:2).  His hope continued …

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God’s Promise Is Not Contingent on Your Performance

Reading through the Old Testament, one might wonder where this Abram came from.  What is his significance?  Why is he now a main character in this grand story?  Why him?  And every single one of those questions is completely valid.

It appears as if there is nothing special about Abram except for the fact that he was chosen by God.  And that is more than enough.  Abram’s value does not seem tied up in the quality of the called but rather in the quality of the one who called him.

In a genealogy of Noah’s son, Shem, a man named Terah is listed last.  His crowning achievement?  He fathered a son named Abram (Gen. 11:26) who was married to a barren wife named Sarai (Gen. 11:30).  This genealogy from the surviving members of the flood comes to a screeching halt.  Based on the information given, Abram’s family of origin is known and his descendants seem an implausible dream at the moment.  No indication is given if this man is righteous, noble, bold, or innovative.  We are unaware if he is a gifted preacher or a skilled leader.  It is unknown if he is liar, cheat, or a thief.

We just know that he is chosen by God and that is where the story continues.

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God Has to Look Down at Our Highest Attempts

Ever since Adam and Eve were tempted to be like God (Gen. 3:5), all subsequent people seem bent to trod down the same path.  They want to prove they are holy.  They want to show others that they are set apart.  In Genesis 11, we read the epitome of the ridiculous notion that Mankind can reach God at Ground Zero of a place called the Tower of Babel.

At the Tower of Babel, Mankind attempts to reach God through their efforts and ingenuity.  The people spoke in only one language (Gen. 11:1).  Their desire was to maintain security, so they built a city in order not to be “dispersed over the face of the earth” (Gen. 11:4).  Their desire was to be praised, so they built a tower to the heaven in order to “make a name for themselves” (Gen. 11:4).  They desired to be comfortable and known.  Instead of listening to God, they wanted to be God.  If they could only build this tower high enough, they could reach the heights of heaven, storm the castle gates, and take over ownership and become the masters of their own fates.

The build was impressive.  It was very high.  Their skills and knowledge had increased vastly so that this tower was ever growing taller.  For all its height and majesty, God still had to humble himself to see such a tiny, insignificant, pathetic structure.  “And the LORD came down to see the city and the tower, which the children of man had built” (Gen. 11:5).

For all their work to exalt themselves to the place of divinity, God still had to humble himself to behold their best, collaborative efforts.

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Am I My Brother’s Keeper?

With the exile of Adam and Eve from the Garden of Eden, humankind’s history takes a drastic turn. The first family is banished from Paradise, and this once “good” creation has apparently made some unfortunate self-modifications concerning the original model. One would hope that Adam and Eve would learn from this rebellious episode and warn subsequent generations from revolting against God.

The first children of Creation reveal how severely sin is already corrupting Mankind. Adam and Eve were at least obedient to the command “be fruitful and multiply” (Gen. 1:28) as “Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived and bore Cain, saying ‘I have gotten a man with the help of the LORD.’ And again, she bore his brother Abel” (Gen. 4:1-2).

Within one generation of God making man in his image, man murders that image in his very own brother. Apparently, sibling rivalry began with these first brothers. Abel watched the sheep and Cain worked the ground (Gen. 4:2). At some point, they each brought an offering to the LORD. It was a gift. It was intended to be a sacrifice of sorts to reveal a grateful heart to their Maker. As a farmer, Cain brought an offering of the fruit of the ground (Gen. 4:3). Shepherd Abel brought a sacrifice from his flock.

While it appears at first glance that both men provided a worthy gift, God does not regard them equally.

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Punishments in the Garden

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After Adam and Eve’s sin, they try to blame someone else for their mistake.  God has heard enough.  He warned against sin, and because he is a just God, he must give consequences for sin.  Rebellion must be addressed.  To the serpent, his legs are removed forcing him to slither on his belly from that point on causing him to choke upon the dust of the ground from which Man was made (Gen. 3:14).  God curses (arur) the crafty (arum).

In the midst of this depressing scene, hope emerges.  Gen. 3:15 serves as the “Protoevangelium.”  It is the first announcement of the gospel, or good news, in the Bible.  “I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her offspring; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel” (Gen. 3:15).  God informs the listeners that Satan will be fighting against this human race for the remainder of days.  He will bruise Mankind’s heel.  He will trip many a people up who are trying to follow God, but there is also a promise of one who will come and not stop at the heel.  One will come to bruise Satan’s head leaving a lethal blow upon the enemy.

Concerning the identity of this attacker, one vital clue is given: he will be the seed of a woman.

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Adam vs. Eve

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The conversation continues to the point where Eve saw “that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate” (Gen. 3:6).  As she commences this sinful snack, it is revealed that Adam has been present the entire time.  If you read the first section of Genesis 3, every sign points to a conversation being held between the serpent and the woman.

There is no sign of the man anywhere.

You almost picture a seductive personality intruding in a home where the woman is left alone.  Surely this slick-talking, charming intruder wouldn’t dare entice a man’s wife to apostate from her God if her husband was home.  You get the feeling that the man of the house is gone, and someone has come to prey upon the unsuspecting wife in his absence.

Unfortunately, that is not the case.  Adam is there.  He is present the whole time.  Adam’s silence in this moment speaks more volumes than his recorded remarks ever will.

His passivity leads to the Fall of Mankind.

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Satan’s Schemes

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When God created, it was good.  Really good.  Until Satan came along.

Creation’s flawless nature is unable to last very long.  The entrance of a new, crafty being into the timeline changes the story’s dynamic in the blink of an eye.  With basically no introduction, the being known as the serpent slithers into the conversation with impending, disastrous results.  At first glance, all that is known concerning his identity is that he is “more crafty than any other beast of the field” (Gen. 3:1). 

The remaining pages of Scripture will fill in the holes of his identity.  This serpent is none other than the antagonist of the big story.  He is Satan – the Devil himself.  Some of his nicknames include the Accuser, Beelzebub, the Enemy, Lucifer, the Tempter, and other not-so-flattering monikers.  His aliases alone reveal that this is not a being to be trusted, and yet his very tactic is to get people to do that very thing.

To clarify, Satan is the antagonist, yet he is never depicted as having equal footing with the protagonist – Yahweh.

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When God Got His Hands Dirty

While Genesis 1 summarizes Creation, Genesis 2 takes a behind-the-scenes look at a very pivotal part of the work created on day six.  The author presses rewind and looks at the significance of how God created the unceasingly, stubborn race known as Mankind.  While Genesis 1 describes Elohim the Creator, when his work with mankind is revisited, a subtle English shift takes place with major Hebrew implications.

Instead of God creating Adam, the LORD God creates Adam.  In many translations, you might read the word “Lord” with every letter capitalized.  This word is not the simple Adonai meaining “Lord,” this word is Yahweh.  This is the name that God designates to himself when Moses later asks him how he should describe him to Pharaoh.  “I am who I am.”  Only when the shift happens from universal creation to the creation of mankind is Yahweh mentioned.  This shows that there is a God over all, but there is a LORD in relationship with some. 

While God spoke everything else into existence, he “made” man (Gen. 1:26).  God formed man out of the dust from the ground like a potter skillfully shaping and molding a vessel to his liking.

His hands, matted with dusty earth, shapes this man to be a specific image-bearer.

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Walking with God, Adam Was Still Alone

In the early stages of this relationship, God and Adam were close.  Adam experienced a level of intimacy in the Garden that no other human has ever fully experienced.  There was no sin.  There was no separation.  There was no Fall, curse, or corrupt nature.  God strolled through the Garden that Adam tilled.  We are talking face to face, eye to eye, life to life interaction.

And yet, amidst this intimacy, God says one of the most shocking statements concerning the only creature he formed in his very image: “It is not good that the man should be alone” (Gen. 2:18).  The rolling rivers were good.  The berries on the tree were good.  The curiously formed duckbilled platypuses were good, and yet Man, made in God’s own striking image, was not good.

He was alone.

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God is Good (And So is His Creation)

A simple threefold pattern describes the first six days of Creation.  In each day, something was stated, created, and affirmed.  God spoke something into existence.  He used words.  He said, “Let there be light.”  Using solely words, light burst forth at 670,616,629.2 miles per hour across nothing to illuminate the beginning of something.  God stated, and with those words, he created.  Each day, reflecting upon the day’s work, he would affirm it.  He saw that it was “good.”  It wasn’t evil.  It wasn’t imperfect.  It wasn’t lacking.  God’s creation was good.

God’s creation was the way it was intended to be before something so vile began to corrupt something so good.  In these first days, everything was new and vibrant and life-giving.  It was good.  It couldn’t help but be good — God created it.

He is good and it is only fitting that his creation would reflect his character.

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In the Beginning…

In the beginning, God.  The first words of the Old Testament leave no room for misunderstanding.  Before the details of the rest of the story are conveyed, the author wants to make sure the reader grasps a fundamental doctrine: in the beginning, God.  In the beginning, there was nothing other than God, and from the beginning, there was nothing that did not come from God.

God created everything we know and see out of nothing.  Usually, when someone tries to imagine “nothing,” they fall short.  Normally, that person is imagining space or a dark expanse, but even that is something.  That something fails to be nothing.  Aristotle stated, “Nothing is what rocks dream about.”  It’s impossible for our finite minds to even comprehend the concept of nothing, but that is exactly out of what God created.  He created the world ex nihilio (“out of nothing”).

He didn’t need any outside advice or help.  He wasn’t scrounging around for building supplies.  All he used to create everything we experience today was words uttered from his lips.

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“I Got All These Trees”

Our little family is growing.  Not only in number or size, but we are slowly getting things.  Our minds are growing.  One of my prayers for my children have been, “God, give them a mind to comprehend your nature and help them develop a big heart with which to love you.”

We use different types of teaching plans or Bibles with the children during family worship.  I have contended for a while that the best way to bring my kids up in the Lord is not the best church programs, but what we do in the home.  Lately, I have been retelling the Old Testament narrative over and over to the boys.  I have them repeat different elements to me, and we keep stacking more of the story each time.  They know the days of Creation, the 10 Commandments, and the big picture with the main characters involved.

Sometimes, you wonder if they are getting it, and then, you have a moment like I did last week and you remind yourself that you might be on to something.

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It Really Wasn’t Eve’s Fault

Men must resolve to take responsibility for their families. Passivity is not an option. Whenever a man fails to accept his God-given responsibility, his family is in serious danger.

The first family in the Bible provides an example of what happens when a man fails to lead. Take some time to read Genesis 3:1-13. As you read, make note of key phrases that characterize Adam’s passivity.

Sin was ushered into the world in this tragic account of the Fall. In Genesis 2, God gave Adam the command not to eat from the tree. Eve was not around to hear this original message. If she were to receive that piece of instruction, she probably received it from her husband, Adam. What’s shocking about Genesis 3 is that the reader isn’t even aware that Adam is in the scene until verse 6. The Bible describes a conversation with Eve and the Devil and there is no sign of Adam.

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