Do Children Make Good Converts?

How many mission trips have you been a part of in which the evangelistic focus was centered around children?  In my mission and ministry experience, the most common demographic for evangelistic efforts are children.  Energetic teams hop off a bus armed with balloons, refreshments, and gospel presentations ready to win the next generation to Christ.

Going through different ministry trainings, I heard numerous times that the chance of someone becoming a Christian dramatically decreases once that person reaches the age of 18.  In my experience, I would agree with that assessment.  Due to that belief, great focus is reasonably put on reaching younger people with the gospel.

But is it the best approach?  Imagine that one day, on your drive home from work, you notice a lot of activity in the park near your neighborhood.  As you drive by this festival-type atmosphere, you realize that your 7 year-old daughter is sitting down with a bunch of other children listening to some type of story time.  You recognize many of the children, but the storyteller is unknown to you.  After parking your car, you see your daughter raising her hand.  One of the adults begins to talk with her and it looks as if they are praying together.

Curiosity turns into concern, and you start to pick up your pace a bit only to realize that a group of Bahá’í missionaries have just converted your daughter to the teachings of Bahá’u’lláh without your permission or approval.  Outrage is an understatement.  You are considering calling authorities to address this unthinkable situation.

I paint that picture because our method of carrying out the Great Commission must be addressed.

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In the Beginning Was the Word

 

Wow, what a stellar day to be a part of North Side!

We kicked off a new series today studying the Book of John entitled, “Knowing Jesus.”  To start things off, we celebrated some baptisms.  We sang “Come and Listen” as our candidates told why they were being baptized.  My favorite part of the day was watching fathers baptize their children!  Doesn’t get better than that for me.  Coming off the “Courageous” series, movie release this weekend, and our 1st family worship guide, it was incredible to watch!

Today, we worshiped to:

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When I Die, I Want People to Remember That I Was…

  I think about my funeral from time to time.  I wonder how people will remember me.  Will I leave a legacy or will I have just taken up space?  Will the world be any different from the time I spend here? I want to hear from you.  Give me a one word response to this post: “When I die, …

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How Would Your Children Describe You?

I had a wonderful Father’s Day yesterday.  I am so honored to have such wonderful boys.  As part of my Father’s Day gift yesterday, the boys made me a card.

Amanda gave them a simple instruction: “Tell me about Daddy.”

Now, they are 3 years old, so who knows what might come out when you ask them for that.  She sought, they delivered.

Here’s what they had to say (look for the “E” and “O” to see which ones came from Eli and which ones came from Obadiah):

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Major in the Minors: Jonah

What a wonderful day at North Side!  So much happened today that we can celebrate our God for!  Focusing on Jonah, we talked about accepting God’s call throughout the service.  We were so blessed to hear from Hope Brown, student missionary, who just returned with a bunch of other students who served at M-Fuge Charleston.

Today, we worshiped to:

I always love worship with a missional focus!  It was great to hear our congregation say, “Where You send us, God, we will go!”  In addition to those missional worship songs, I also included a new song I wrote for my boys called “Like Father Like Son.”  I wanted to make our Father’s Day focus impacting and not something Hallmark.  The words of this song have caused me to think lately and I pray it was a challenge for all the fathers today.

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It’s All About God (New Book)

As we are celebrating my boys’ birthdays this month, I thought long and hard about what to give them.  I decided to write them a book.  As with most of my projects, it started small, then grew into something a lot bigger!

To make it, I decided to use the process I used when I wrote Freshman 15.  Once I went down that route to make it for my boys and their friends attending their birthday party, I decided that it would be just as easy to make it available to you!

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Protecting Your Home

What are you willing to do to protect the people in your home? If you lived in a dangerous neighborhood, more than likely you would make sure you made every effort to lock up the home before you went to sleep that evening.  Having children in the home makes most parents even more likely to take precautionary measures.  Whether it …

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Don’t Make God Pay for Your Dad’s Mistakes

[The following is an article assigned for an upcoming LifeWay curriculum.  The assigned task: help people who have a bad situation with their father understand God as heavenly father.]

Some people do not like to hear a certain word in church.  The word is bothersome to some.  The concept is down right offensive to others.  Due to so many people’s pasts, calling God, “Father,” is the worst possible name to ascribe to him and it leaves many Christians unsure of how to view God the Father.

Let’s face it: we live in a fatherless world.  Deadbeat dads are the cancer of our society.  A majority of children are growing up in homes with fathers either physically or emotionally estranged from them.  So when a person with baggage from their earthly father enters into church settings where the Heavenly Father is talked about, you see why so many people struggle.

Pastor and theologian, A. W. Tozer stated that “What comes to your mind when you think about God is the most important thing about you.”  The implication of that statement can not be overstated.  Your perception of God has everything to do with how you live for him.

The problem is that many people view their Heavenly Father in the same way they view their earthly father.

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Be Careful Little Eyes What You See (OG, Obie, & the Cereal Bowl)

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I snapped this picture on my phone this morning at the breakfast table.  Uncle OG was finishing off the last drop of his milk in his cereal bowl while my oldest son, Obadiah, learned from the entire spectacle.

Never a dull moment in the Agnew house.

“Oh, be careful little eyes what you see…”

This song was in my head going to work this morning.  You can imagine how Obadiah finished his cereal off after watching his Uncle OG.  Oh, the things my family teaches my boys!

While this episode is simply humorous (and I hope it made your day 😉 ), it was a great reminder that my boys watch my every move.  Would I really be happy as a father if they mimicked my every behavior?

Would I be proud if they copied my:

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Fathers: It’s Better to Attempt Than to Regret

Last week’s evenings were pretty full for our family, and so I took off early last Tuesday to do something special with the Agnew boys.  Some of the guys in our college Bible study play for Lander’s baseball team, and so I decided this would be a great trip for us.  We had been playing a lot of baseball in the yard as of late, and I thought the game would mesmerize the boys.

After loading the boys in the truck, finding our way to the field, I realized something about taking 2 almost 3-year-olds to a baseball game:

It’s a horrible idea.

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Anticipating the Arrival


There’s nothing like going home to me.  I wish you could follow along with me my drive up the driveway after work every day.  The excitement is at different levels at different days, but normally I walk into 3 people jumping around and cheering like I am the best person in the world.  No matter how hard the day had been, this hysteria at 5:10 makes all things right in the world.

The other day, as I noticed Obadiah and Eli’s faces pressed against the window, banging on it with their hands, I thought they had gotten taller.  Turns out, they had climbed up on the window sill anticipating my arrival.  I don’t know why Eli was still peering out the window when I was standing behind him, but regardless, it was a special moment as they climbed up eager to see my truck arrive in the driveway (even if they did disobey by climbing up there).

The reason they get that excited is due to their perception of the person they are anticipating.  I don’t think I’m that spectacular, but in this season of life, they do.  And they show me in how they eagerly wait and celebrate my arrival.

The problem is that we aren’t that eager concerning Jesus’ return.

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Shh…Eli Has a Secret…

I took this picture when we were getting our boys new shoes the other day.  We were on the way to do some ministry at North Greenville on Friday, so we took our time and spent some time together in Greenville.

These boys are growing up very fast.  Their abilities and speech are taking off week by week.  I feel like I have two little men around me.

One of the things we have been having fun with is whispering in each other’s ears if we have secrets.  I’ll lean into the boys and say I have a secret, and I will say, “I love you,” or “Daddy is so proud of you.”

Obie got the hang of it first and began to repeat some of my secrets back to me.

Then Eli got into it, but I wasn’t prepared for what he was going to tell me.

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10 Things I Would Have Done Differently as a Father

What a great day with North Side!  While I was hobbling from my foot and stuffy from my sinuses, our congregation carried the worship today as we gave it all we had.

Today, we worshiped to:

To setup the message on fatherhood today, I shared the story of my involvement in the curriculum associated with the upcoming movie, Courageous.  After that and watching the powerful video below, people were ready to sing out, “As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”

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Imitation is the Sincerest of Flattery

Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children.”  -Ephesians 5:1

Last night in our C-Group, we dug in deep into Ephesians 5 and sought to learn what it meant to imitate God.  One of the guys made a great point at how his son wanted to imitate him because he looked up to him.

I could relate.  It amazes me that these two wonderful boys, Obadiah and Eli, look up to their father.  Over the last few weeks, they have hopped around like they were on crutches  tryinb to be like Daddy.  Obie keeps telling me has a boo boo on his foot like me.  On Christmas morning, when they both got guitars, they stepped up to the microphone, stomped on foot pedals, and said, we are “playing and singing like Daddy.”

If imitation is the sincerest of flatteries, then I am a flattered man.

During group last night, I realized something with massive implications: they imitate me because they want to!  You may be thinking that is obvious, but do you get the spiritual implications?

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5 Things You Didn’t Know Fathers Do

I wanted to share with you a list concerning fathers I found the other day.  As I have been studying and working on Courageous, I’ve been gathering a ton of information concerning the impact fathers have on their children.  Here are 5 things you didn’t know fathers do: Fathers Teach Empathy – A 26-year study published by the American Psychological …

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What is the Age of Accountability?

Much debate surrounds the issue of the age of accountability. When the disciples asked Jesus who was the greatest in the kingdom (Matt 18:1), he sat a child down before the disciples to answer their question (Matt 18:2). It would have been pointless for Jesus to exalt a child to hold the mantle of who belongs in the kingdom if …

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Spoiled Rotten

13 For you are called to freedom, brothers; only don’t use this freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but serve one another through love. 14 For the entire law is fulfilled in one statement: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. 15 But if you bite and devour one another, watch out, or you will be consumed by one another.
(Galatians 5:13-15, HCSB)

Spoiled Rotten

As a parent, I have certain rules and stipulations by which I prefer my children to adhere. My wife and I have standards of bed time routines, dietary selections, and level of freedom bestowed upon our children. We want our children to have fun, but we have certain rules we prefer them to live by.

That is, until they go and spend time with their grandparents.

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Family Resemblance

1 Look at how great a love the Father has given us, that we should be called God’s children. And we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it didn’t know Him. 2 Dear friends, we are God’s children now, and what we will be has not yet been revealed. We know that when He appears, we will be like Him, because we will see Him as He is. 3 And everyone who has this hope in Him purifies himself just as He is pure.
(1 John 3:1-3, HCSB)

Family Resemblance

As a young boy, I would often hear from someone how one of my features resembled either my mother or my father. Some people could actually tell I was their child even if they had never met me. Now as a father, I always enjoy hearing from people who they think our boys look like. Sometimes I have left a room to have someone tell my wife, “I won’t tell your husband this cause I don’t want to offend him, but your children look just like you.” I always laugh at that. I’m not upset if my children look like their mother (I did choose to marry her, you know?).

It’s a fact of life: children share family resemblance with their parents. It might be the way they look, the way they talk, or they way they behave, but children often resemble their parents.

As children of God, we are called to do the same!

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The Popsicle Fiasco

I have been going through family footage this week during my recovery working on an adoption video, and I ran across a video of Obadiah from back in April right before I went to pick up Eli.  This routine was happening about everyday after nap time.  It wasn’t staged, it just was regular. Hope you enjoy the popsicle fiasco:

On Behalf of All Black Men…

A few weeks ago, I was riding Obie and Eli in the Walmart buggy while Amanda was grocery shopping.  As I attempted to keep them occupied, we ran into some friends.  The boys started to hand out the high-fives to our friends when an older black man that I did not know came up and insisted on getting high-fives himself and then walked off.

One minute later, he came back and interrupted the conversation by pointing to Eli and asking, “Sir, excuse me, but are you mentoring this young boy?”

Before I got to respond to this funny question as this stranger pointed at my tiny 2-year-old, Eli looked up at me and tried to get my attention by saying, “Daddy?”

This man stated, “I’m sorry, is this boy your son?!”

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My Role in the New Movie Courageous

Many of you have been following the news of Sherwood Pictures’ next film, Courageous. The talented crew that made such films as Fireproof and Facing the Giants is releasing a new film on the need for fathers to rise up. And I got a role in it. To be clear, they have not called upon my acting abilities.  My face …

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Sunday’s Prayer Card That Floored Me

Sunday, we had a time when people could come down to the front in our services and fill out a card that said, “God, if only You could…” and they were to fill in the prayer request. This morning, our staff started going through the huge stack of prayer requests.  When I got the stack from the stage, the one …

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P.S. Photo Shoot (Happy Father’s Day to Me)

Tomorrow, I get to celebrate Father’s Day as a father of two special boys.  I could not be more proud to be a father.  Life doesn’t stop when you become a parent, it just enriches so much.  I am blessed beyond belief due to these precious boys! We were so thankful to have Paige Stumbo do a photo shoot of …

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Book of the Week: Raising Dad

This week’s book of the week is Raising Dad by Thom S. Rainer and Art Rainer.  I am grateful to Chuck Lawless for recommending this book to me.  Lawless is the dean at the Billy Graham school at Southern Seminary.  His predecessor was Thom Rainer, now the president of LifeWay Christian Resources. In conversations with Dr. Lawless concerning being a …

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My Son Has Learned to Say “No” (And I Taught Him)

Thanksgiving holiday was a great week for our family.  Having some days off of work created a lot of family time for us.  While most things were great this week, one addition to Obadiah’s vocabulary changed family morale greatly. Obadiah’s new favorite word is “no” (actually it is “nooooo” because he holds it out long and shakes his head). “Good …

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Joy to the World (Obie’s Dance Party)

I decided to try out the pre-mastered version of our Christmas CD on Obadiah the other morning.  You will hear a snippet of the first track, “Joy to the World,” and you will behold my son’s stellar dance moves (at some point, you will still hear audio but the video will freeze, that was around the time Obie tried to …

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Yes, I Now Own a Minivan, and I’m Proud of It

Travis Agnew is now the proud owner of a minivan. Julie Houser Gordy, Becky Knight Sutherland, Shonda Tolbert Rapp and 8 others like this. Julie Becky Shonda Kelly Laura Julie Lacy Katie Amy Brittaney See all… Teresa Nicole Dove haha 🙂 Yesterday at 7:40pm · Delete Drenda Sheek I miss mine sooooo much! It got totaled on I-95. It was a great vehicle. Hope …

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“He Looks Just Like His Dad”

26 Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness. They will rule the fish of the sea, the birds of the sky, the animals, all the earth, and the creatures that crawl on the earth.” 27 So God created man in His own image; He created him in the image of God; He created …

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Uncle Trav

I posted some pictures on Facebook and sent some Tweets last week updating everyone on the status of my sister and her baby, but I haven’t had time to post some stuff here.  So… My sister, Tara, and her husband Richard had a precious baby, Harper Elizabeth, who was born on Thursday @ 1:40 in Charlotte.  She was 7 lbs …

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Parents Baptizing Children

Sunday night was a pretty big night for me.  It was the culmination of my 15-week project that I implemented at North Side that corresponded with my seminary research. If you want to know what has happened in the last fifteen weeks corresponding with my project: Crossroads Series GRACE Series Legacy Series Focus Group Church Survey Making Faith Stick (2 …

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Practical Leadership in the Home (What Does It Really Look Like?)

After Sunday’s message, I have heard a lot of encouraging words.  That message was difficult to preach.  Eph 6:1-4 is an in-your-face-passage.  It’s encouraging, but it is honest with how the home should be run. After a message like that, it is easy for fathers to walk away with motivation devoid of application.  You might be a dad who wants …

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Disciplining and Discipling

North Side entered into week 4 of the 5-week series, “Legacy,” today. The band led with: My Savior Lives – New Life Worship Made to Worship – Chris Tomlin God of This City – Bluetree My Savior’s Love – Chris Tomlin The band did great.  Chris did great leading America’s attention to Jesus on this special day.  The Grahams’ Home …

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Generational Hand Me Downs

Today at North Side, we talked about “Generational Hand-Me Downs.”  What is it that you are passing down through your legacy? In Ps. 78:1-8, the psalmist informs parents to pass down instruction concerning the Lord to the coming generations. While the psalmist reminds the people of their constant faithlessness in light of God’s faithfulness, he pleads that the parents should …

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Whose Job Is It to Evangelize My Child (The Church’s or Mine)?

In an increasingly busy society, many forces compete against the unity of the home.  Parents should utilize the local church to assist in raising godly children.  Neglecting the local church concerning a child’s development is not only detrimental to the child’s spiritual vitality but also exposing the parents’ limited resources.  While the local church does serve to bring the family …

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Making Faith Stick

It all starts this Wednesday. MAKING FAITH STICK: Ensuring That Your Children Have an Enduring Faith I will lead a four week study entitled Making Faith Stick designed to equip parents of younger children decipher when their children are ready to become Christian. We will be focusing primarily on the dynamics of elementary aged children but not solely, and anyone …

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A Family’s Choice

We had a great Mother’s Day at North Side.  As we celebrated mamas, had a family dedication, continued in the Legacy series, and even had our first Home Invasion, it was a great day.  Hopefully, I can share the Home Invasion video with you later this week.  Thank you, McCalls for letting us invade your home. Message Synopsis: After Joshua …

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Your Kids’ Best Chance

Today, we started the Legacy series at North Side.  I started it out with a message entitled “Your Kids’ Best Chance.”  You can listen to it here.  May is going to be an incredible month as we focus on the family.  I am so excited for what is in store.  Are you ready to see your home change?  Remember, my …

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Legacy Series Starts This Sunday

Every parent leaves a legacy. Will your child benefit from yours? The Compass is in, the set list is prepared, and the message is almost done.  This Sunday, we are going to start a new series at North Side that has been prayed about and thought about for over a year now. Sunday, we begin Legacy.  This study through the …

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The Most Important and Often Neglected Message to Deliver to Teenagers

I spoke at Greenwood Christian School this morning.  This is their Spring spiritual emphasis week, so I will also speak on Friday.  This morning, I spoke on what I considered the most important and often neglected message to deliver to teenagers: honor your father and mother. This message isn’t ever preached in churches to teenagers.  In an ideal world, parents …

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The Difference Between Organization and Discipline

A couple of years ago, I read a line in a book called Big Idea by Dave Ferguson.  In this book, he lays out how his staff handles a logistical nightmare in how they plan.  The way their church organizes around one thought and gets so much accomplished requires a ton of work.  When I read it, I was a …

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